Monday, December 29, 2008
Christmas Week
Jagger had about 10 Christmas's, and after that, we stopped trying to count and about 8 of which was just with mine and Clints families. He got a ton of stuff again and so did we. I wonder what we will have to do to make people understand to STOP buying stuff for us. I think next year we are going to suggest drawing names for more than just the siblings. Clint has 4 other siblings and that isn't counting their kids or significant others. So after you calculate 6 grandparents...it gets to be too much to haul home and way too much money spent! I would rather them take the money they were going to spend on me and donate it to someone.
Speaking of doing good....we finally were able to go back to the Grand Saline cememtery and look at "Baby Grands" new headstone. I know that it is kind of a morbid thing to get excited about, but we were completely heartbroken when we realized that everyone had just forgotten about a child that was found in a road ditch. Jagger has really taken to us stopping and putting flowers out or a stuffed animal. I want to show him that if you see something you don't like, don't wait around for someone else to change it. There isn't anything wrong with trying to correct the situation. We got some pictures, but I don't know how to load them, so if you have a myspace you can see them there...if you don't have one get one and search for me www.myspace.com/aka_nikkioglesby
I have been trying to get motivated for school to start back up on Jan. 5th. I am more excited that I won't have to travel so much and I can hopefully start running again. We will see, but my goal is to do some 1/2 marathons or atleast the 5K we walk every year for Susan G. Komen. I know 5K isn't far, but it can be when you are out of shape! I am also hoping that with a little bit more free time, I will be able to get involved with a charity I have been wanting to participate in for some time now. C.A.S.A. I would love to be a child advocate. Hopefully I will be able to set some ground work down for my future with this organization now or atleast find out where I am suppose to be in this crazy old world. Well, thanks for reading and have a Happy New Year!
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
This year
We started this year riding our dirtbikes every weekend with a group of really good guys...to losing one to a dirtbike accident. He was the glue that held us together, pushed me in my faith, taught me a lot about riding and not to be a chicken in anything I did. He didn't listen to my excuses, he normally called me out, and I still do not believe he is gone. By losing him, I also learned to pick up the phone when I think of someone and call them then instead of saying, "Oh later". You see, Butch called me on the Thursday before he passed, but I was "too busy" to answer (which was something I never did because I always had time for Butch-daddy), little did I know, that would have been the last time I would have talked to him. He was 64 and out rode and out lived us all. He raced his whole life and at 64 was still running over the younger competition. That reminds me when I hear a lot of people say they don't want to start school or fulfill their life dreams because they are too old, Butch wasn't too old to get back on his bike after 10 years of not riding and was showing everyone that Butch Lawrason was back. RIP Butch.
On the other hand, Jagger was tested for the academy. He is in a magnet school now and will test again in January. This reminds me of just the opposite of what Butch taught me...that no matter how young you are, it is never too soon to start your future. If you don't do it now, then you will soon become one of the people that say they can't because life passed them by. Should have, would have, could have. If you fail, don't stress, but keep working. Your purpose will reveal itself in ways you never expected. If you say nothing, do nothing, then you will be nothing. Challenge yourself to go 2 steps farther than you planned even when life knocks you back 4 steps.
In all of this, I have noticed that I stress too much on the little things. Stressing on the little things keeps you from accomplishing the bigger ones. When I realized that I needed to leave my current university, I realized that I didn't know what to do or where to go, but after a month of doing nothing, then a month of freaking out.....I remembered God is good and even if I can't get in this semester to PSU, I have some other classes I can take until my application process is complete. Plus, there is something bigger than me working right now and I just have to relax and let it happen, but not get lazy or too comfortable because as quickly as it was answered, it can be changed. God has it planned out but I do not know when or how the changes will come. All I can do is sit back and enjoy the ride.
I noticed that when I think life is going poorly it is that the bad things that keep me humble. A lot of people ask God "God, show me my purpose in life...." but they soon follow that up with "...but only if it fits into this life I want, or as long as it fits in with the education I think I needed." Stop asking for God to work out your plans, but be open to ALL of his plans. Even when I finish my degree in Criminal Justice / Spanish and go into something unrelated, there was something I learned, or someone I met along the way that is going to mold what I do for someone else. There is someone out there that needs you and we have to stop trying to force our agendas. WHOA let me get off this soap box and finish studing for my test! I feel like I am starting to ramble a bit.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
12-04-07 This day is over
After my wedding, I sat and hand wrote over 300 thank you cards, and I couldn't do it all myself. I have seen brides take initiative and have their guest write their own return envelope; this is a great way to ensure that you don't have to bear all of the responsibility and time consuming efforts. But, sometimes that is called for. I even recruited Clint, my dear sweet husband, to carefully write out a few themselves. People love to see that Clint sat down, no matter how much he dreaded it and write those notes. Even with his sloppy "man-writing". He understood, that I didn't want to be there writing those any more than he did and he did a great job. I got a card yesterday in the mail from someone that got married in July. This is perfectly acceptable too. The first few months of marriage are a whirl wind and I was surprised to see it come. The longer you go, the less likely you are to send them out. I have even gotten a thank you card from the help/flowers for yes.....a funeral! If grieving people can send out thank you cards, how come happy people can't?
When you don't send out thank you cards, this shows that maybe you don't expect me to send you one either.....this makes me wonder how much love is involved when you sent me gifts, because you don't expect one from me. Maybe you don't see the love in the blankets that these elderly women give you. Maybe you don't know what it takes to make something so detailed. Maybe you just don't care. Just anyone that reads this, please reconsider that there are certain traditions that should be cherished.
3-11-08 I just want to make a statement....
3-24-08 What chew talkin’ bout Willis?
9-10 Friendship isn’t always knowing someone.
She, she had lost her husband not long after I met her. I had written her with my number to tell her that I was sorry for her loss and to please call if she needs anything. Her husband hasn't been gone that long in the grand scheme of life and I don't like a lot of people take that offer I gave her seriously enough and I think when people say "Call me if you need anything" do not ever give it a second thought when they say it too. Maybe that is why the hurting do not do it because they know it is just lip service. When she called me on Tuesday (or was it Monday?) I knew, she did. I wanted her to call me if she needed help, someone to talk to, someone to cry to, someone to just come sit in quiet. I was so glad to hear from her.
Well, she did, out of the blue and I was estatic! Long story short, she told me that it was nice to talk to someone that didn't know them very well because all she had was close family and friends and sometimes she didn't want to duel on her loss. Sometimes she wanted to talk about other things to help get her mind off something that was constantly there. I haven't had a really close loss, in the family I mean, but I kinda got it. She told me that conversations with friends / family before the death of their loved one was cheerful and always never a pause or awkward silence, and now that is all it seems to be. It was nice talking to someone that wanted to know more about where she grew up, her kids and life experiences she had. Her husband isn't talked about because he isn't here physically, but because he was there before. I just hope all of you that read this, reach out to someone that may be in need, because you never really know who that is or when they need it.
9-26 I want to see her...because I never met her
Now. Lets get started. It will take some explaining but you will get it in the end, and I will try to make this as painless as possible. My mother's parents are both dead. My grandmother who was from ..:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />England died a few months before my birth, and my grandfather died a month before my wedding. So, he has been gone for more than 5 years and all of his siblings are deceased as well for over 20 years.
Not long after my parents moved into their current house, we started having Thanksgiving regularly there, my aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. This wasn't a family that spent a lot of time together over the years, and after my grandfathers passing we decided that they are very important. Mom's second bedroom is where either my sister spends the night or my Aunt stays. It is far down a long dark hallway from the rest of the house. Jagger stays in that room and I have to tell you, if I had to stay in it, I would sleep in the living room. SCARY! Mom goes and stays in there when dad snores too loudly.
Mom has been awakened by the feeling that someone is sitting on the bed, when my dad was still working nights. I asked her if this scared her and she said no. She has been woken up with the hallway lights on while her dog was growling in bed, while she was home alone. I just couldn't get it.
Anyway, my mom, my sister, and my aunt have all at different times woke up because of the smell of cigarette smoke. Last Thanksgiving they were talking about it when my mom said that is the only place in the house she smelled it except once in the kitchen. I told mom that someone must have smoked in that house and it was just coming through the vents when the heater kicked on....and she looked at ME like I was crazy. Oh well. That day there was a crock-pot that my cousin Kathy had left. We were going to be seeing her in the next couple of weeks to do some Christmas shopping so mom washed it and put the lid on it and set it on the counter out of the way. I saw it with my own eyes. When my mom told me to get it out of the back seat, I saw it. Inside the pot with the lid ON was some cigarette ashes. Crazy!!!
This is where it all comes together. Last night mom was telling me about how the night before; dad had fallen asleep on the couch. When he came to bed about 3:30, she was awake (very light sleeper) and she told him "You don't have to be quiet, I am awake". So dad drifted back asleep and started snoring like always. Mom had enough and was headed down to the extra room. The hallway was lit enough to see. Down this hallway are picture frames that hold my grandfathers pictures and pilots' patches and my grandmothers British Women's Air Force pictures. A memorial. So, she was walking down the hallway, and there stood her mother. She said "Mother?" and my grandmother just smiled. Mom turned around and there stood my grandfather's sister, Lorena. Mom said "Aunt Lorena?" and then she turned back to her mom and said "You both are dead, does that mean I am dead too?" At that second, they disappeared. Mom thought she had died in her sleep, which scares me to death. As I talked to her, I asked her if she was scared or how she feels about it now. She said that she wasn't and isn't scared. I believe in ghosts....but, I want them to visit me. That sounds scary, but I want to see the women I never knew. We never really experienced anything like this. Oh and why do we care if we smell smoke and find ashes? Because my grandmother smoked heavily. That whole side of the family did. That is what they did in the 40's because there wasn't much else to do.
Oct 1 Your not completely dead until your forgotten about
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I remembered in 2002, there had been a baby found in the ditch somewhere around Grand Saline, and they never found the parents, if you want to call them that, or the persons responsible. I will never forget how the community came together and declared this child as "their child" and the "town's baby". The last few times we have been out there…we would always go by to visit this grave of the child named "Baby Grand".
Last Sunday, I saw something that just broke my heart and I could tell it crushed Jagger as well. This grave had at one time had some flowers and stuffed animals. They were still there in fact, but they were shredded to pieces….with legs flung on other graves, and grass that was knee high. Who ever had been tending this grave had mowed over the animals and never came back because it hasn't been mowed in forever! I immediately started getting upset.
Monday, I called the funeral home that directed over this child's burial. They told me that they were sorry for the lack of care taken on this grave. Clint, Jagger and I had decided on Sunday, that we would start coming through every other week and put out flowers, pulling weeds etc. I had already decided to put a fund together to put out a small head stone. After all, this at one time was the towns baby, but I see now how the town feels towards their children. When I told the funeral director of my plans, he told me he would get back to me on prices.
Finally, after calling the owner of the funeral home several times, because he is a very busy man, I got my response. The funeral home is going to take care of everything. I was so happy. No one is ever completely dead until they are forgotten. I did not want this child to go unforgotten. The small metal marker wasn't going to be enough to remind people that there are laws in place such as the Moses Law / Safe Haven Law keeping parents from throwing their new babies into garbage bins, toilets, or the ditch. Instead they can drop them off with no questions asked at fire stations, police stations, and hospitals. That got me to thinking. There signs that say "Safe baby site", but I do not see them locally. If they are there, they may not be in places that I see. Next time I got to town, I will go look….but in the mean time, visit this site: http://www.religioustolerance.org/saf_have.htm
I do not tell you this story for any kind of recognition…and actually almost didn't blog about it. But I realized that sometimes we hesitate looking into something that we feel passionate about because we are too afraid it will take up too much of our time or money to get them done. But more times than not, all we have to do is ask and someone might be willing to help. I hope everyone that reads this realizes that sometimes we get into too much of a routine of only doing what benefits us or we chose not to do something because we might be "put out" for a small amount of time or effort. There is a lot more that can be done behind the scenes to make someone's life smoother. This child may not ever know what it has meant to me, but maybe someone that is thinking about abandoning their child may run across that grave and seeing the tiny market could encourage them to take responsibility or change their mind about abandon it at all.
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Monday, December 1, 2008
Thanksgiving!
Moms Thanksgiving was the hit is usually it. I get to see my Aunts /Uncles and cousins that some I see and some I don't. There was a new addition on that side too and she is gorgeous. I am so glad to get to see everyone because I get to laugh like we used too when we were kids. Games get played, football gets watched, kids get tickled and I get my mothers dressing!
This year mom, sissy and I woke up for the Black Friday sales.....I have never done this, and will not do it again. I didn't get anything cheap enough to make it worth it....just a few movies and some clothes and too many cranky shoppers. I did get Clint a special gift this year.....CLINT, IF YOU READ THESE BLOGS (which I know he doesn't) STOP READING NOW! I got him a new harmonica. Yes, he plays it, so I got him a bigger one and a new book.
Well, I guess I am off to buy a new washer and dryer....ours is going out...so Merry Christmas to me.
Thursday, August 28, 2008
New School Semester!
Well, Clint and I are moving our church letter to my old church...Hainesville Baptist Church. We are so excited and really love the preacher. We have been welcomed with open arms...unlike the last church where you MIGHT get a wave from a familiar face. Everyone is so happy to have us. We have already build several relationships with the preacher, young adult teacher, and a couple other members. I can't wait. It is so funny because Jagger isn't too keen (for some reason) on joining the youth so he sits in the congregation with us. The elderly ladies are like "But they have punch and cookies"....I remember that punch and cookies from when I was little but they were home made then, so there might not be much to miss now because the ladies that made them are either dead or bed ridden. We are not a very closed couple. That means, Clint and I will tell you of our not so great moments and laugh about them later. Most would sweep it under the rug or try to not talk about it but not us...we don't hid anything. We have been going to Hainesville for a few weeks and the preacher is already repeating our stories in good humor, but of course not telling the congregation who it is. I guess there isn't any better form of flattery, but it is still funny because it catches us off guard, and then we are like "Wait! He got that from us!"
Monday, August 11, 2008
I am starting to dislike weekends...
Saturday we spent too much at Walmart as always, but relaxed the rest of the day. We decided to go see our new nephew and visit my father in law and his wife. Cooper (nephew) is so adorable and tiny! He is 6 lbs and Bailee his sister is so excited. He slept the whole time but I didn't care. Clint wouldn't even get close to him...he says the little ones make him nervous.
Yesterday, Clint, Jagger and I went to church. I really like Hainesville Baptist Church. They will break their neck to make you feel welcome and invite you places. Hubbard Chapel wasn't like that....you walk in and you might get a wave from someone you know. Bro. Terry will hold up the line to talk to you for a while. He is excited he will be our neighbor soon because he rides 4-wheelers and was estatic to hear we had dirtbikes. We thought we were selling but since EVERYONE and their momma are selling out because of gas, we decided to keep them. I mean they are paid for and we wont get much for them because of the market right now. It was so funny when people would ask Jagger his name because he would nod his head as he said "Jagger Wright". He even got compliments for looking people in the eye when he spoke to them. You could tell he was trying to be clear when saying his name because it was all elderly people that were asking him. lol.
Last night we won our softball game 18-4. I was skeptical about our team at first, but we possibly could be the team to beat. We have won both scrimmages and the season officially starts in September. I loathe going but when I get there my attitude changes. Of course, I pulled a muscle and dove for a ball that I should have had, but the other team figured out that they dont want to hit it to me. lol. Clint plays first and I am in the outfield. I love the outfield, but I can't throw as far as I used to since my shoulder surgery and I babied it for so many years. I just wish I could play this weekend in a tournament they are having for Cents 4 Sophie. But I have a baby shower I am throwing for Clints cousin. Well, that is all for now.
Monday, July 21, 2008
Whew, I am old!
Well, it is official...I feel like crap. Clint and I decided to start on a softball team to help with a little girl named Sophie that has a brain tumor. She needs $70,000 for an experimental treatment, and no, I know the little girls family, so this isn't one of those "chain letter" things that you get where you forward or send a card and someone donates money. Anyway, in a mist of all the talk of starting a team, we decided to play on a church league...called Spur on Ministries. Now, they don't like to be considered a "cowboy" church, but why call yourself Spur on then? Anyway, that isn't the church we go to but that is another opinion Clint and I don't agree on. But until our church gets a team together we will play for them. Saturday and Sunday, Clint, Jagger and my self spent the greater part of the day in the pool because we found some water proof cards and decided to play cards in the pool. This quickly progressed into underwater cards. We would throw the cards at the bottom of the pool and you had 30 seconds to find your best five cards and played poker that way. Then we would throw all the cards to the bottom of the pool and you had to find all the cards (solitaire style) in order the fastest. That was hard and tiring. Now, I know why mom was so uncool and didn't let me go swimming on game days! We had our first softball practice last night at 6:30....and I was about dead. I layed in the outfield on my fat butt at just watched towards the end. My gosh, my arm and butt are so sore. But, I must say after 8+ years of not pitching....I still somewhat have my ability to sling one underhanded. This is the longest way to say, I am tired. Wore smooth out!
So, I have made some gifts for people that where having babies and such. I posted a few pics on my myspace and now, I am overwhelmed with people wanting to order stuff. This is great! But, I am a little worried what will happen when school gets into full swing again. I may be biting off more than I can chew. I love to decorate and create things and love love love giving hand made things for gifts. I know I don't charge for what time I have in them because I just love to do it so much. Maybe that is why they keep coming back. I may have to go up on my prices but right now I am just enjoying the time to myself making things.
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Welp, since most of you don't have a myspace.
Since school is out, I don't have much to report. Although, because I become so busy with school, once it does start, I might have less to report but I will try anything twice. This summer is going on with a bang. We have Jagger for our two weeks right now and man alive has it been hot! Since we decided to get a pool we have spend a majority of our time in it playing cards. I know, I found some water proof cards. We had intentions of planting some pumpkins and fall water melons since we didn't plant a summer garden and my father in law was unable to keep me in my daily supply of melons. But, we jacked around too long to get the place tilled for the pumpkins. I have plenty for my fall decorations but none to sell/share. Last year we threw some over old ones the fence and they are growing back this year. Oh gosh, could this get any more boring? This is what I have to captivate you with for my first blog?